When Teams Think They Share Values But Don't
Unspoken assumptions about how to work together create invisible friction.
We were deciding whether to match a competitor's aggressive pricing to keep a major client. My head of sales said absolutely yes—we can't afford to lose this account. My head of finance said absolutely not—if we cave on price here, we'll erode margins across the board.
Both arguments made sense. But as the debate continued, I realized they weren't really disagreeing about this specific decision. They were disagreeing about something deeper: what kind of company we were trying to build.
Sales believed we should do whatever it takes to grow the account base—relationships first, everything else second. Finance believed we should protect our pricing integrity—principles over any individual deal.
We'd been working together for years. We thought we were aligned. But we'd never explicitly discussed this fundamental question about how we operate. We'd just assumed everyone saw it the same way.
I call this the Assumed Alignment Trap—the pattern where leadership teams believe they share values because they've worked together and generally get along. The assumption holds until a hard decision exposes the gaps. Then it becomes clear that people have fundamentally different ideas about what matters.
How to Spot the Assumed Alignment Trap
The pattern hides until it doesn't. Day-to-day operations work fine. People collaborate reasonably well. There's no obvious conflict.
Then a decision comes along that forces a trade-off. Do we prioritize speed or quality? Do we optimize for this quarter or next year? Do we protect the team or hit the target? Suddenly, the leadership team discovers they have completely different ideas about the right answer.
These disagreements feel personal because they're really about values, not tactics. People get frustrated that others "don't get it." What they're actually experiencing is a clash between unstated assumptions about how things should work.
Another sign is inconsistent decisions across the organization. Without aligned values, each leader makes calls based on their own framework. The sales team prioritizes one thing, operations prioritizes another, and the company sends mixed signals about what actually matters.
Watch for recurring debates that never seem to get resolved. The same argument surfaces in different forms, different meetings, different contexts. This often indicates a values gap masquerading as tactical disagreement.
Why This Pattern Is So Common
The first reason is that values conversations feel abstract. Leaders want to discuss concrete problems, not philosophical questions about how they work together. It feels like navel-gazing when there's real work to do.
The second reason is that people assume shared values because they work in the same workplace. "We all work here, so we must want the same things." But people join companies for different reasons and bring different frameworks for operating.
The third reason is that many teams mistake a generic agreement for real alignment. Everyone agrees that "quality matters," "customers are important," and "we should act with integrity." These are table stakes, not values. Real values involve trade-offs—and people don't realize they'd make different trade-offs until they're forced to choose.
Finally, values conversations can surface uncomfortable disagreements. It's easier to leave things implicit and hope alignment exists than to discover it doesn't.
What You're Losing
The most immediate cost is decision-making friction. Without aligned values, every significant decision becomes a debate about first principles. The team can't just discuss options—they have to relitigate what matters before they can evaluate trade-offs.
The second cost is inconsistent execution. When leaders have different values, they make different calls in similar situations. Employees experience this as mixed messages and arbitrary decisions. Culture becomes whatever the nearest leader believes, rather than a coherent way of operating.
There's a trust cost, too. When a values gap surfaces unexpectedly, people feel blindsided. "I thought we were on the same page." The discovery creates doubt about what else might be misaligned. Trust takes a hit.
The deepest cost shows up in crises. When things get hard—when the company faces real pressure—unaligned values become unmanageable. The team fractures at exactly the moment it needs to come together.
What Real Values Alignment Looks Like
First, let's be clear about what values are not. Honesty, integrity, excellence, customer focus—these aren't values. They're table stakes. No leadership team is going to say they're against integrity. If there's no valid opposite that another successful company might choose, it's not a differentiating value.
Real values are choices. They define trade-offs. They answer questions like: Are we collaborative or competitive? Both are legitimate approaches, but they create very different compensation systems, decision-making processes, and ways of working together.
High-performing leadership teams make their values explicit and specific. Not "we value quality" but "we will delay a launch rather than ship something that doesn't meet our standards—even if it costs us the quarter." Not "we value transparency" but "anyone in the company can see any document except individual compensation."
The test for a real value is whether it has a legitimate anti-value. If your value is "we move fast," the anti-value is "we are deliberate and careful." Both are valid choices. The value becomes meaningful because another successful company might choose differently.
Aligned leadership teams revisit their values regularly. They discuss real decisions through the lens of stated values. They catch gaps when they're small rather than waiting for a crisis to expose them.
Testing Your Leadership Team
Try this exercise: ask each member of your leadership team to independently write down the three values that most guide how your team operates. Not the company's stated values—the actual principles that drive decisions at the leadership level. Then compare answers.
If you get six different lists from six people, you're not aligned. If people struggle to articulate any values, you've never made them explicit. Either result tells you something important.
Another test: take a real decision your team made recently where there was disagreement. Ask people what values informed their position. Did everyone prioritize the same things? Or were people arguing from fundamentally different frameworks?
Look for patterns in recurring disagreements. Are certain people always on opposite sides? Are the same tensions surfacing repeatedly? These often indicate value gaps rather than tactical disagreements.
Where to Start
Schedule a dedicated session to discuss leadership team values—not company values, but how this specific group will operate together. Block two to three hours minimum. This isn't a sidebar in a regular meeting.
Start by identifying real decisions where the team has disagreed. For each one, dig into the underlying question: what did each person prioritize? What would they have been willing to sacrifice? These concrete examples surface implicit values better than abstract discussion.
For each value that emerges, push for specificity. "We value speed" isn't useful. "We would rather ship something imperfect and iterate than wait for perfection" is specific enough to guide behavior.
Test each value with the anti-value question. If there's no legitimate opposite, it's not a real value. Push for something more specific.
Document what you agree on and revisit it quarterly. Values aren't set once and forgotten—they need to be tested against real decisions and refined over time.
Questions for You and Your Team
Before moving on, take a few minutes to reflect on these questions. The goal isn't to have perfect answers—it's to surface whether this pattern might be affecting your team.
If you asked each leader on your team to name the top three values guiding how you operate together, would you get consistent answers? Would any of the answers surprise you? Alignment means the answers match—and match what you think they are.
Think about a recent decision where your team disagreed. Was it really about tactics, or was it about fundamentally different views on what matters? What values were in tension? Often, what looks like tactical disagreement is actually values misalignment.
For each of your team's implicit values, what's the legitimate anti-value that another successful team might choose? If you can't name one, is it really a value—or just a platitude? Real values have trade-offs.
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About the Author
Bruce Eckfeldt is a strategic business coach and exit planning advisor who helps founder-CEOs of growth-stage companies scale systematically and exit successfully. A former Inc. 500 CEO who built and sold his own company, he brings real-world operational experience to strategic planning and leadership development. He's a certified ScalingUp and 3HAG/Metronomics coach, Certified Exit Planning Advisor (CEPA), an Inc. Magazine contributor, and host of the "From Angel to Exit" podcast. Bruce works with growth companies in complex industries, guiding leadership teams through growth challenges and exit preparation. Reach him at bruce@eckfeldt.com with any questions or if you want more information or to book a call with him.
